If you are in the position of having to let friends and family know, there are two aspects to bear in mind: the practical challenge of getting in touch with a big group of people, and the emotional challenge of dealing with others’ reactions.

How to tell people

You may feel overwhelmed at the thought of passing on the news of a death, especially if you have a lot of people to tell and you want to tell them quite quickly.

  • Make decisions about whether to tell people face-to-face or by phone
  • If you have a large family or wide circle of friends, delegate some of the responsibility for passing on the news to those close to you
  • If you don’t know how to phrase the news, just keep things simple

Dealing with reactions

In letting people know what has happened, you will have to deal with the grief of others as well as your own feelings. Be prepared for the fact that people may not respond in the way you might expect, they may be embarrassed or say something awkward.